Archive:  April, 2011

Dr. Peggy Drexler’s got the most recent fatherhood-tagged post on ol’ HuffPo – and she brings up a complicated topic: whether fathers are able to affect daughters just by being around (and then scaling upward the better they are). Her argument is that – yes, fathers shape daughters’ lives, but that just saying it “lacks dimension.”

I think giving things dimensions sometimes cheapens nature’s finer designs.


England’s National Health Service released a publication for medical centers and hospitals outlining all the wacky and wonderful information that, well, they wanted to health care professionals to know. Here’s a zinger: “To help overcome anxieties about giving birth,” the manual states, “planned hospital visits can be valuable to give expectant parents, especially fathers/partners, practical information about such matters as car parking and cafés.”

Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to child birth in England, which I now can’t imagine without the Benny Hill theme song.


Fatherhood writer Aaron Gouveia spanks his kids, and he’s not apologizing for it. Ever since his son was a twinkle in his eye and an itch in his testies, Gouveia had felt spanking was a valid form of punishment and deterrent. His wife didn’t then, and still doesn’t, even when her husband’s spanks show “positive” results.

Gouveia admits that it’s a complex issue and that there’s more than two sides to it. He himself hates doing it, and – something we can all agree on – says that anyone that enjoys spanking their kid is a sicko. “But sometimes, with certain kids, it’s effective,” says Gouveia. “I say certain kids because the decision to spank a child has to be taken on a case-by-case basis.”

Gouveia’s clearly thinking it through. While I personally side with his wife, who doesn’t “believe in” spanking, I like to hear thoughtful discussion on the topic. I also like that when someone wants to convey that they don’t agree with spanking as a punishment, they say they don’t “believe in” it, as if it’s a leprechaun.

Read the rest of Gouveina’s argument at the DadsGood wing of the Good Men Project, sauced below.

Sauce: DadsGood


Since we’re not above reading celebrity news, here’s a couple of stories in the news this morning…

Brittany Murphy’s Father Added to Death Certificate: Angelo Bertolotti, Brittany Murphy’s father (who divorced Murphy’s mother when Murphy was 2 years old) went to the Los Angeles County Registrar and had his name added to Murphy’s Death Certificate because he was having trouble being allowed to see his daughter’s grave at Forest Lawn Cemetery.

Michael Lohan “Breaks Into” Daughter Lindsay Lohan’s House: Lindsay hid in her closet while her father, Michael, banged on the front door and walked around back to peek into windows.

What’s that? You want to read some real fatherhood news and not just re-hashed celebrity garbage? No promises, it’s Monday.



Michael Lohan, hated by his own drug-addicted daughter, is a recovering addict himself.

I can only imagine that Michael Lohan’s to-do list looks like this:

1) Do drugs

2) Get daughters to hate me

3) Open rehab yacht

4) ????

5) Profit

The worst part about all this is that he will also be on the next season of Dr. Drew Pinsky’s sham of a rehab show. Actually, that’s not the “worst part,” because having a worst means there’s got to be a best, and the only good part is that it’s Friday. BTW, I know this isn’t fatherhood news, but Lohan is a father. And in that picture, he’s wearing what some people would call a hood. It’s Friday.

Sauce: Broward Palm Beach New Times


Are You An Impatient Dad?

A quickie today from Mark Brandenburg at ThyBlackMan delves into the idea of patience and control when dealing with your kids.

Brandenburg talks about how the desire to control your kids’ behaviors can make you needlessly crazy. Often times, we don’t need to control specific actions of our kids, but would like to. Brandenburg reminds us that our children “are to be guided and led, but not controlled.”

He ends with the most important point, that if we pay as much attention to the good things that our children are doing and let them know that we approve, we solve most of the problem of wanting to control them.

When you’re on a walk with your kid this weekend, make sure to compliment something about their behavior, and maybe that’ll make you feel better when they want to jump into a rain puddle.

Sauce: ThyBlackMan


You didn’t know there was a National Window Safety Week? At first, I thought “this is great, I can get some tips on the most popular virus scanners, maybe some system cleaners, back-up software. I’ll get my computer running right!”

Evidently, this has nothing to do with Microsoft Windows. And National Window Safety Week was April 3-9, so we really missed the boat on this. I never got a press release e-mailed to me, so boo on the window industry. Keep reading for what I found out.


If you had to look up the word “inimical” after reading the Fathers & Families article title (linked at the end of this article), you’re not alone. The intelligent dudes at F&F, god bless ’em, don’t make it easy for us proles to get our heads around stuff sometimes. And I have a degree in Literature! In all fairness, the New Hampshire court was the one that used “inimical,” but F&F ran with it.

Anyway, it’s a great moment for fathers (don’t worry, it’ll pass and you’ll be back to the bottom of the socio-familial order soon!) – as a New Hampshire Supreme Court decided that a particular mother’s custody was not in her children’s best interests.